January 2011

 

February 2010

 

February 4, 2010

February 4

Despite the great distances of land and water separating us,

may each moment bring us closer.

Happy Birthday!

I  LOVE YOU!

André

January 2009

 January 1, 2009

40^th Wedding Anniversary

What about if sometime this year we hand in hand, backpacking, we explore the pyramid of Ibi numbered 40 in 1842 by the Egyptologist Karl Richard Lepsius? You select the time and buy the tickets; I take care of the rest of the trip. This trip, would a nice way to start another phase of our life.

Life is mysterious!

Who could have known that I am loving you more now, than I loved you the first time I met you in Manila!

Who could have known that after so many years of profound happiness together realizing our dreams, there is still place for more joy and more projects in front of us!

Your André 

October 1998

 

October 3, 1998

30th patron feast anniversary – both together

“Dearest Angel,

Today, I love you thirty times more than the first day…

The first day, I loved you infinitely…

André

Messages from André to Angel (1998 to 2025)

The following are messages and wishes from André to Angel (1998-2025).

Over the years, André frequently corresponded with Angel, particularly on special occasions such as feast days (October 3rd), birthdays (February 4th), and their wedding anniversaries (January 1st).

Of their three marriages, the exchange of personal vows on January 1, 1969—without witnesses—held the deepest importance for both. The other ceremonies were a civil marriage (Appendix 2) on June 23, 1970, and a religious ceremony on March 7, 1971  (Appendix 1).

January 1991

André wrote to Angel when she went to India in January 1991

January 14, 1991

My Love,

I hope you receive this letter, on the day of your 50th anniversary—what a milestone!

This year, this letter is the only way I can mark your birthday. We would have loved to celebrate this half-century together, but fate has decided otherwise.

On the positive side, you are with your family in India, able to spend long hours with your loved ones. For this, I am truly happy. I was also very glad to hear your voice over the phone, and to learn that the situation in Andhra is calm, with less turmoil. Nevertheless, please take care of yourself.

At home, remember the conversation we had in the lobby of the Lor Elgin Hotel. Please ask Lourdhu to ensure that the back exit of your home is always readily accessible. Every good security plan should provide for multiple exits. This is necessary here because of the fire hazard, and it applies in other circumstances too, such as in the case of a gang robbery. Let us put all the odds on our side, without being overly insecure!

The current environment in India and the world is perhaps one of the main reasons for my behaviour before your departure for the airport. It was difficult for me to let you go, knowing what is happening in the world and what could happen. I did not want to discuss it with you, for fear of worrying you more. I felt compelled to keep everything inside, but unfortunately, my uneasiness surfaced in the way you know. I am very sorry for that.

Let us pray that your journey will go smoothly and that you will return safe and healthy.

As the children implied in their letter, I had to organize the work for each of us at home. It was necessary if we wanted you to avoid returning to a dirty house. As you might expect, those who are usually the sloppiest were also the loudest about it: 1) Éric, 2) Marc, 3) Sunita. You will be able to see for yourself whether I have succeeded when you return.

Since Sunday, I have been trying to reach you through Father Colombo or Bishop Bala (Editorial note: Priest and bishop from the Warangal diocese). The reason is that Radio Canada is preparing a broadcast for February 2nd, during the week dedicated to International Development in Canada. They would like to feature SOPAR and conduct an interview with you while you are in India. I hope that by the time you read this letter, this matter is already under control.

I could write much more, but I will stop here. Please give my love to all the members of the family—to mother, and especially to your brothers and sister.

Take good care of yourself. Do not work too hard! Make sure to leave time for rest and relaxation. Come back in good shape. While you are relaxing, think about how we could spend some free time together next summer.

I miss you very much. Once more, with all my heart, I wish you a happy birthday and send you full of warm kisses.

With each passing year, you grow even more beautiful, like a fine wine.

Nive Na Prema! André

January 1990

André wrote to Angel when she went to India in January 1990

January 22, 1990

Gatineau

My dear Bala and Angel,

Tonight, the snow continues to fall, and this year’s winter has proven to be especially harsh. I am truly glad that you can escape, if only for a short while, from this severe weather. I imagine that the climate in India must be much more pleasant, so I hope you are able to make the most of it.

Since your departure, life at home has settled back into its usual rhythm. Everyone is participating in the household duties, though there are occasional lapses. I believe that these arrangements should continue even after your return, with the understanding that you will also contribute to the workload. We will see how things work out!

Marc has already begun his school year and is actively involved in basketball games. He seems to be doing well in both areas. Eric, on the other hand, remains much the same—he agrees when asked to do something, but often chooses to follow his own inclinations. Today, he called me at the office to request a book, explaining that he needed it to finish an essay due by Friday. His passing the French course from last semester depends on this assignment. I decided not to purchase the book for him, telling him he must find a solution on his own. This evening, he told me he plans to visit the CEGEP library tomorrow to borrow the book and complete the essay. We will see how this unfolds.

Sunita is generally doing well. She relishes her freedom and spends considerable time watching television. There are rumours circulating in the house that she has a boyfriend named Philippe. She asked my permission to visit the Museum of Civilization in Hull with Philippe and two other friends, which I granted.

On Wednesday, both of our CEGEP students – Éric and Sunita - will begin their classes—it is about time! I hope they will perform better than they did in their first semester.

October 2000 - last day at 20 Chemin des Érables, Gatineau

Regarding SOPAR, all seems to be progressing smoothly. The PPP report has already been submitted to CIDA, and CCIC has approved the latest submission sent to them, as I mentioned to you over the phone. The second issue of PARTAGE (Editorial note: SOPAR Newsletter) is nearly ready; it should be packed and mailed before Andrée’s departure (Editorial note:  SOPAR program officer). Edmonde has scheduled a brief board meeting to welcome the bishop, who will be visiting St. Alexandre from February tenth. We will meet him on the evening of the tenth. For additional updates, Andrée will provide you with the latest news.

As for your time in India, I was somewhat disappointed to hear over the phone that the lot purchased for us by Father Colombo is not ideal. Is it possible to secure a better one before your return? What is the status of the plans and blueprint for the house? Have you found an architect? When will construction begin? I understand we must follow the pace of life in India, but time is short. Nevertheless, please proceed as you think best.

I hope you found the family well, that mother is aging gracefully and in good health, and that everyone else is also doing fine. I send my warm regards to each one—though I am not mentioning names, as I would not want to leave anyone out. How have Rajah and Showreddy adjusted upon re-entering their own society after their stay in Canada? I suspect their transition was made easier following the cold December they experienced here.

How is your SOPAR work progressing? You must already have heard many concerns and received numerous delegations. Remember—see, listen, note, and question, but do not commit yourself immediately. In our profession, this approach is wise. Make sure to also take time to rest and reflect at leisure, as this is essential for maintaining our well-being.

On February fourth, you will not be with me and the children—it is our fate. I will be especially close to you in spirit that day, and I am happy for you, knowing how much you enjoy spending time with your family in India.

As for us, and for myself, we are eagerly awaiting your return. I love you with infinite yearning. I send you my embrace and tender kisses.

Your Husband, André

November 1977

In autumn 1975, the family—now with three children—moved back to Canada, where André was promoted to deputy director of the partnership branch at CIDA.

They purchased a house in Gatineau, 20 chemin Des Érables.

Angel traveled to visit her family in India in November 1977.

Back in Canada, 1976

November 6, 1977

Eric wrote with pencil: LA TULIP DE MAMIE. TOTO A LAPE LA. PATEE DE TITI LE.  TATA DODU DE. LEA PETALE. OPALE

Sunita and Marc scribble on the at their convenience.

Dearest,

As you can see, everyone is writing to you!

How is your trip going? Your call from New York was much appreciated. I hope you managed to board your Air India flight without any significant delays, as a long wait might have impacted your connection in Bombay. Please let me know in your next letter whether you made your connection in Bombay as planned.

After dropping you off at the airport, Eric and Marc became quite upset and started to cry on the way back to the car. To comfort them, we stopped at the airport ice cream parlour and treated the children to ice cream cones. Eric was especially sad and asked for a really big one. The drive back to Limbour was uneventful, though Eric cried twice more asking for you, with Marc following suit. Fortunately, these episodes did not last long. Throughout the journey, Sunita did her best to console them, reassuring her brothers that you would be back soon.

We arrived at René and Odette’s place at 6h30 PM. and had our meal there. The children ate well, and by 8h15 PM, we were home. Mother helped me put the children to bed; Eric slept in Jannine’s small bed. However, when I finally went to bed around 1h30 AM—having stayed up late to study for the competition—Eric asked to sleep with me, explaining that “his bed was not good.”

Your Husband, André

November 7, 1977 (Day 1)

I left for work before the children woke up at 9h00 AM, as I had an important interview (Editorial not: For a PM 6 promotion) to attend. I am uncertain about how it went, but I remain hopeful and pray that I was successful. We will not know the outcome until the end of the month.

Upon returning home in the evening, I found that the children had behaved very well throughout the day with Mamie and Grandpapa. 

Grand-papa et mammie circa 1975

Grandpapa spent his time in the garden, racking up all the leaves and removing the dead flowers from the flower boxes. Meanwhile, Mother did some cleaning around the house. The repairman for the dryer arrived and completed the necessary repairs, which cost $67.95. Later, I finished dealing with the dryer myself, ensuring everything was in order.

While I was occupied, Mother gave the children their baths. Each of them received a piece of candy as a small treat. Eric completed his dictation, while Marc and Sunita wrote their lines. Afterwards, everyone went to bed. By 10h30 PM, I also retired for the night, as did mother and father. This brought an end to the first day.

Please take care of yourself. Be mindful of what you eat and make sure to get at least eight hours of sleep each night. Enjoy your visit. Everything here will be just fine.

ILKYHY

L’autre Moitié, André

November 8, 1977 (Day 2)

Eric wrote: LE TUTU DE LEA. LA PETIT LULU A LA TUTU. EMILE A LA MOTO DE MIMIM. MA PETITE AMIE EST MALADE. DO

Sunita and Marc wrote with pencil, just some scribblings.

Dearest,

This week is dedicated to revision for Eric at school. There are no new lessons for him to learn, as it marks the end of the first quarter. On Thursday and Friday, there will be no classes—Thursday is a holiday, and Friday is a pedagogical day.

Work continues as usual, filled with meetings and the usual distractions.

Earlier today, mother experienced quite a scare involving Marc. In the afternoon, after Sunita had woken up, mother went to check if Marc was still sleeping. She could not find him anywhere in the house, despite searching and calling out for him. Fearing that Marc may have gone outside without clothes—especially since it was cold and raining—mother started to become very worried. Thankfully, Sunita eventually found Marc sleeping deeply under our bed on the carpet. It turned out to be a good-natured joke in the end.

Upon my return from work, mother and father informed me that they would prefer not to travel to Montreal for the weekend. They explained that there was nothing for them to do there, and that the trip would be too tiring. They said that if the trip was only for my sake, it would be better to stay home. As a result, we have decided to remain at home for the weekend, which is much more convenient.

Throughout the day, father kept himself busy. He oiled all the door hinges and measured both the basement and the flower boxes to determine the exact amount of wood needed to finish the basement and cover the soil of the flower boxes. I plan to order the wood tomorrow, hoping that we can work together in the basement over the weekend. In the afternoon, Odette visited Mother. Everything is fine.

The children are well and send their love. They ask you to take care of yourself. Both yesterday and tonight, during prayers, they especially prayed for you to have a pleasant trip. ILYKYHY.

I received a phone call from a friend of the new couple who rented apartment #2 at Radisson. This person is interested in purchasing the house. I mentioned the price of $62,000 and told him to come by after your return in December if he is serious.

How are father and mother, and all the family? Please write soon.

Your Husband, André

November 9, 1977 (Day 3)

Eric wrote: LAMME TOMATO AMI OTE TULIPE ETOLE OPALE. TAPE LILI PILULE TUTU. PETITE PATE. PATATE EPI. PAPE LAPE PILE MOTO

Sunita and Marc scribbled with pencil with the help of André

Dearest,

I hope this letter finds you well. How are you and the rest of the family? I am thinking of Marreddy, Mary, and their children, as well as Father, Mother, Rajah, Lourdhu, Jethrutha, Anthonamma, and their children. I hope everyone is in good health. How is the weather in India? Here, it has been raining, but despite the rain, it remains quite warm for this time of year.

The children are doing well, and mother is taking excellent care of them. There have been no issues, and everything is running smoothly. father continues to work very hard around the house. Today, he cut all the wood in the drum outside in the backyard. Additionally, he crafted covers for the flower boxes at the base of the four lamps located at the entrance. He also built a small shelter for the rose bush and covered it with dried leaves to protect it from the cold weather.

This afternoon, I took the car to work because I intended to purchase more wood during my lunch hour. The wood is necessary to finish the basement and to cover the flower boxes. I placed the order, and it cost $229. The delivery is scheduled for tomorrow, which means I will be able to work together with Father over the long weekend.

There has been a slight change in our weekend programme. Mother will be travelling to Montreal with Odette and René, who need to go to Montreal as well. She will leave on Saturday morning and return on Sunday. father has decided not to go and will remain here.

At 9h00 PM this evening, I attended a short meeting convened by the church's social committee to plan for the upcoming Feast of Levis (Editorial note: parish priest). The meeting concluded at 9h30 PM.

Please look after yourself. Remember to eat well but be cautious with the water. Ensure you get enough rest. ILYKYHY.

With love, André

Éric, Sunita, Marc

November 10, 1977 (Day 4)

Éric wrote: LULI DODO PIPE TATA MEME. LULU MEME TATA MIMIM. LULI DO PIPE TATA MEMA. LULI DO PIPE TATA MEME.

Maman’s message to Angel:

Chère Angel,

Tâche de profiter de tes vacances le plus possible, nous te manquons beaucoup. Mais, nous sommes raisonnables ; on va faire en sorte que tout se passe très bien. Grand-papa va bien. Il aime beaucoup les petits, André et nous, nous nous arrangeons très bien.  No problem! Tu vas trouver que la page sur laquelle j’écris est collée dans le bas ; c’est que les enfants avaient les mains collantes ; car, après le souper, régulièrement, ils mangent leurs bonbons.  Les trois mangent très bien ; dorment très  bien ; sont bien sages. Ne soit pas inquiète, Mes respects à toute ta parenté. Grand-papa et moi t’embrassons.

Grand Papa et Mammie Gingras.

À bientôt.

My darling,

How are you? I sincerely hope you are well, as is your entire family—our family. Today at work, I was very busy finalizing the last details of a consultation we will organize with Canadian non-governmental organizations. This meeting will take place on November 22 and 23.

At home, everything is going well. The children are very well-behaved, they eat everything, and they obey perfectly. Éric is sleeping with me because he didn't like Jannine's bed. He didn't go to school today since it was a professional development day. This morning, he went with Mom and Odette to Simpson Sears, while Dad looked after Sunita and Marc. There was a sale on large dresses and Mom wanted to buy something for Christmas.

The wood for the basement arrived: Dad has already set up the boards for the flower boxes. That was a good thing, because it's been raining heavily.

I hope you are making the most of your stay. I would like to be with you and the children, but it's our fate, as you wrote in the note you slipped into my briefcase before you left. But everything is fine, and in reality, things could always be worse.

ILYKYHY! Your husband, André

November 11, 1977 (Day 5)

Eric wrote: DODU/LAPE/ TAPE /MAMIE/ PIPE/. DODU/LAPE/TAPE/MAMMIE/PIPE.DODU/LAPE/TAPE/MAMIE/PIPE.DODU/LAPE/\\/ TAPE/MAMIE/PIPE.

Sunita and Marc wrote in their own way.

Dearest,

I hope this letter finds you in good health and spirits. Are you getting enough rest? Please make sure to take care of yourself and sleep well.

Today was Remembrance Day, so there was no work. It is also Sunita’s birthday. The children woke up around 7h30 AM. It was another rainy day. After helping the children get dressed and have breakfast, I went outside, where father had already begun dismantling the swing. I joined him, and together we stored it in the small shed. Afterwards, I took out the snow blower, checked it over, changed the oil and gasoline, got it started, and then put it under the balcony. We are now ready for winter.

I also cleaned the grass mower and stored it in the furnace room. All the bicycles are now in the small shed as well. Meanwhile, Mother cleaned the house and did some laundry.

At noon, after lunch, I went out to buy groceries and a few items needed for work in the basement, spending around $65. In the afternoon, I worked in the basement with Father, and together we finished the door of the furnace room. Mother cooked a delicious meal: ham, pork roast, cake, and Jello.

After supper, I gave the children their baths. By 8h30 PM, they were in bed.

The children are doing well. Eric, however, is counting the days and, although I know he feels lonesome, he is handling it bravely, just like his father.

I love you endlessly. Please take care of yourself.

Sending you infinite kisses. André

November 12, 1977 (Day 6)

Eric wrote: LAME OPALE, MOMIE, PATEE, DODU, LAME OPALE MOMIE PATEE.  DODULAME OPALE MOMIE PATEE DODU.LAME OPALE MOMIE PATEE DODU

Sunita and Marc scribbled.

Dearest,

I hope this letter finds you well and that you are taking good care of yourself. I am also wondering if father and mother are in good health.

This morning, Odette came to pick up mother, who will be returning tomorrow. The children were very well-behaved today, which made the day much easier for everyone. Father and I spent a good portion of the day working together in the basement, where we managed to finish building two more doors.

When we woke up in the morning, we were greeted by a blanket of white outside—the first snowfall of the year. It seems that our preparations for winter yesterday were just in time.

As for Eric, I have not been giving him any dictation exercises. Instead, I am focusing on helping him improve his penmanship, as his calligraphy was not particularly strong. Since the second quarter of the school year, when he will start learning new things, does not begin until next week, I thought it would be best to devote this time to working on his writing skills.

The weather has turned cold. After supper, we all went outside with father to get some fresh air. Naturally, the children played in the snow, making snowballs. They also asked me to make the ice rink so they could skate, but I told them they would have to wait a little while longer.

Now, I am watching the hockey game on television with father. Once the game is over, I will head to bed with thoughts of you on my mind.

I keep you and hold you in my heart. Cheer up and enjoy your time with the family.

Your Husband, André

November 13, 1977 (Day 7)

Eric wrote: LA PIPE A MAMIE ET A TOTO. LA PIPE A MAMIE ET A TOTO. LA PIPE A MAMIE ET A TOTO. LA PIPE A MAMIE ET A TOTO.

Sunita and Marc scribbled as usual.

Dearest,

It has already been a week since you left. Time seems to pass quickly, yet at moments it drags on, depending on where you are and your state of mind—there is a sense of ambivalence. I imagine you must feel the same: when you look at the family in India, time moves swiftly, but when you think about us, it feels much slower.

Today was sunny but a bit cold. We woke up around 7h30 AM, and by 8h15 AM, we had finished breakfast, cleaned the house, and got the children ready for Mass. We attended Mass at 9h30 AM, where I did the second reading and helped with the singing. The children behaved well—Sunita sat with Grand-papa behind us while I looked after Eric and Marc.

After Mass, father walked home with the children, and I stayed at the church to practise Gregorian chant for the following Sunday. Once I finished, I went to the library to return the children's books; I had to pay a $0.25 late fee for the delay. When I returned home, the children played in the basement while Father and I read the newspapers.

For lunch, I prepared eggs and bacon for the children. Afterwards, Eric went outside to play with Catherine and visited the Beauregards’ home. Father and I spent some time finishing the framing for the three doors we had built in the previous days—very satisfying work. After Marc and Sunita had their nap, they went outside for a while. Around 4h30 PM, they returned from Jeannine’s place (Editorial note: a neighbor) and watched television until supper.

For supper, we had cold pork, potatoes, carrots, and cake that mother had baked before leaving for Montreal. We hurried a bit afterwards because Eric was eager to go skating at the arena. He got ready, and while Father stayed with Sunita and Marc, I drove Eric to the skating rink. Unfortunately, it was closed due to a strike by the staff, so we returned home around 7h30 PM.

Mother came back with the Touzins. As usual, René checked our work in the basement and pointed out some defects. The children went to bed around 8h00 PM.

A little later in the evening, we received a phone call from Odette. After returning home from bringing mother to Limbour, they had discovered that a thief had broken in and taken all her jewellery. The police had come, and at least part of the loss will be covered by insurance.

And you, how are you? Please take care of yourself—do not get sick or overtired. Eric finds your absence difficult, and so do I. Please look after yourself. I love you, know you, and hold you infinitely in my heart.

Yours truly,

André

P.S. I have placed the letters from the past three days in the same envelope. There was no mail during the long weekend, and a letter mailed to you on Saturday would have arrived the same day as one sent Monday morning, which is when I am sending this.

November 14, 1977 (Week 2, day 1)

Eric wrote: RA, RE, RI, RE, RO, RA, RU. RUADE, LUMIERE, MARIE RUE. ROME MAMA A RI TU.

Sunita and Marc: as usual.

As is often the case, Monday proved to be a particularly busy day for me. Despite the hectic pace, I managed to handle everything that came my way. I hope you are doing well, and that everyone back in India is also in good health. Today, I heard on the news that many people in Delhi have lost their lives due to flooding, and there seems to be a strange illness spreading in the area.

Eric continues to make excellent progress. He has learned to write the letter “R” very well. In fact, he managed to read all of page 19 in his reading book, even though he was only required to read three lines. His counting skills have also improved, and he can now count to thirty-nine.

Marc and Sunita are doing well overall. Sunita has a bit of a cough, but I am giving her syrup to help with it.

During the day, Father works diligently in the basement. He has nearly completed the last two doors—one for the bathroom and another for the room near the staircase. This evening, I assisted him in fixing the edges, and we were pleased with the results. Mother is also keeping busy; she sewed zippers onto the cushions for the baboo chair and has begun making slippers for the children tonight.

I keep encouraging father and mother to rest, but so far, I have not been very successful in persuading them. For now, I will end my letter.

Please take care of yourself and give my best regards to everyone. I miss you deeply and look forward to the time when we can be together again.

With all my love, IKY. HY! André

November 16, 1977 (Week 2, day 2)

Eric wrote: LA, RUE DE REMI E REPARE.PAPA REPARERA LA TIRELIRE DE LAMI DE PETIT RITA. MARIE A LA MALADIE DE REMI ET LA PARURE DE LEA.

Marc and Sunita also wrote in their own way with their hands like every other day.

Dearest,

I hope this letter finds you well. How are you doing? How is everyone on your end? I am eagerly waiting to receive a letter from you and hope to hear from you very soon. I was wondering if you have been writing, as your letters mean a great deal to us.

The big news today is all about Eric’s latest bulletin. It is truly excellent in every respect—his reading, writing, counting, and psychomotor skills have all been assessed as outstanding. Additionally, it was noted that Eric is very personal, hardworking, and extremely attentive. Naturally, Eric was very proud of his achievements, and I assured him that I would share this good news with you.

Both Marc and Sunita are well and have been behaving obediently. Sunita has been a great help to grandfather in the basement, assisting him with various tasks.

Father and mother are also in good health and spirits. Everything here is under control, so there is no need for you to worry. Your primary focus should be to enjoy your time away and to take good care of yourself.

ILY, KU, HY. Yours, André

November 17, 1977 (Week 2, day 3)

Eric wrote: MAMAN A TAPE TITI, PAPA A LA MOTO DE LEA, PAPA A TAPE TOTO ET TITI LAPIPE DE PAPA ET LA PIPE DE MAMAN ET LA PIPA DE LEO.

Sunita and Marc:  Same!

Dearest,

I hope this message finds you in good health and spirits. How are you doing? How is everyone on your end? I trust that you are well both in body and mind.

Things here are going smoothly. The children are well and have been behaving as usual. Father and mother are also doing well, with father continuing to work diligently in the basement.

Other than that, there is not much excitement to report now. We are all eagerly counting down the days until your return, though I imagine that for you, the passing of time feels quite different and perhaps more challenging. Life, as always, is full of paradoxes.

I will end my note here. You may have noticed that I did not dictate anything to Eric this time. Instead, I encouraged him to write to you personally, and you can read his letter above.

IKY, HY, LU. Yours, André

November 18, 1977 (Week 2, day 4)

Eric wrote: MAMAN A LA TULIPE DE ROMEO ET LA PIPI DE REMI. TOTO A MORDU TITI LE DODU MARIE A MILE TUTU DE LA PETITE LEA.

Sunita and Marc: Same!

Dearest,

It is Friday and today has been a particularly long day at the office. I have been putting the final touches on preparations for the consultation we will be holding with the NGOs next week. It is a significant undertaking, and I am doing my best to ensure everything is in order.

At home, everything is well. The children continue to eat well, and each day they are enjoying their candy—a little treat that is steadily depleting the jar. Their contentment brings me comfort while you are away.

I have been wondering if Mary is still with you during your visit. Has she perhaps lent you any jewellery to wear? I am also thinking of father and mother, hoping they are doing well. I am curious to know if Marreddy liked the knife—please let me know when you can.

So far, I have not received any letters from you, but I am hopeful that something will arrive next week. The anticipation of your words makes the days feel longer.

I sincerely hope your trip was pleasant and that you can enjoy each moment to the fullest. Life moves slowly here in your absence, and I am looking forward to your safe and healthy return. Please remember to take care of yourself and get enough rest while you are away.

IKY, HY, LY infinitely, Yours, André

November 19, 1977 (Week 2, day 5)

Eric wrote: MADAME DORE A DEMOLI LA MOTO DE ROMEO REMI DIRA ELLE A LA MALADIE DU MARI DE MADAME DORE IT A LA TULIP.

Sunita and Marc : same!

Dearest,

It has now been two weeks since you left, and I wanted to share how things have been going at home. Today is Saturday, and the morning began with a trip to purchase groceries.

Afterward, I accompanied Father to several stores to acquire additional materials for the basement renovation. I am pleased to report that all the doors have been installed, and the main room is very nearly finished.

On the family front, Eric had one of his teeth pulled by father, and another will likely be removed before you return home. Tonight, I participated in the commentary at Mass, where I prayed for you and for our family in India. The children send their greetings and wish to remind you to be careful and to look after yourself during your travels. Father and mother also send their warm regards.

ILY, KY, HY! Yours, André

November 24, 1977 (Week 3, day 3)

Dearest and Love,

How are you? How is everybody? I received your first letter. I read it to the children. They were happy. Tuesday, I received 3 more. Hope you are receiving mine.

This week is a very busy week for me. A big consultation with around 70 NGOs, from all over Canada to which I am chairman and every night meetings for one thing or the other.

The big news here is that Sunday night father received a phone call from Robert telling him that younger sister had just died burned alive in the house.  Monday therefore Father took the buss for Montral alone. Odette went to drive him to the bus station... The funerals are taking place today and he will immediately take the bus back for Ottawa. Odette is getting him back home.

On this front, everything is fine. The children are behaving generally well. Eric is coughing – we are giving him syrup. Jeanine is calling mother regularly. Mrs. Bonicalzi, also (Editorial note: Neighbours). They are good to us. I will tell more at your return. I miss you very much, but I understand very well and hope and pray for you to enjoy well your visit.

The children kiss you, infinite kisses. Last night, Eric did not write as usual. He wanted but, it was too late. I therefore told him to go to bed.

IKYLYHY! Yours, André

November 30, 1977 (Week 4, day 2)

Eric wrote: IRA RARE RIDE TOMA MIRE MAMIE PETITE LULU OPALE PATATE. TULIPE REPARE PETALE MAMIE TIRELIRE REMI RI PARURE LA PIPE DE PAPA

Dearest,

Today has been another quiet day, and I am thinking of you. I sincerely hope that you are enjoying your trip and that our family is cherishing your company. Everything here is going well. The children have been behaving themselves and are not causing much trouble for mother and father.

Mother has been spending her time making slippers for the children, while father has been working hard in the basement. Today, he repaired the baseboards and attended to the frames of the windows and the outdoor door.

Eric went to the museum today and had the chance to visit both a police officer and a firearm station. He returned home, but unfortunately, he lost his tuque somewhere along the way. Sunita’s cough is nearly gone, which is a relief. Marc, on his part, has become a very good friend to grandfather.

Mother received an invitation from Mrs. Bonicalzi to attend a supper tomorrow night with the people of "Age d’or." She plans to go, and before the supper, she will attend Mass at 5h30 PM, which will be followed by the meal.

Please take good care of yourself and keep smiling.

Remember, God loves us. ILY.KY.HY. 

Yours, André

August 1975

In 1975, the family, is now in Delhi, where Marc-baby is baptized at the New Delhi Cathedral. His  grandparents from Reddipalem attend the ceremony. Angel's sister,  Mary, is Godmother, and her husband Marreddy is Godfather.

Mary holding Marc

First row: Celestina's husband - Éric - Mary - Angel holding Marc - Celestina (baby-sitter)
Second row: André -Thathaya - Ammama

In August 1975, Angel travelled to Reddipalem accompanied by Éric, Sunita and Marc, the three children.

André writes:

August 6, 1975 (1)

Dearest,

I hope you are doing well. How are the children, especially Marc? Has his cold improved? I am curious about your arrival at the Hyderabad airport—was the welcoming warm? Were all the boxes and luggage intact when you arrived in Hyderabad? There are many questions on my mind, and I would appreciate it if you could answer them in your next letter.

After I left the Delhi airport, I went back home to retrieve my briefcase and to give Vijayan (Editorial note: our servant) instructions for the rest of the day. I asked him to thoroughly clean the staircase from the roof down to the bedroom floor, as you know there was a considerable amount of dust. When I returned for lunch, I found that the cleaning had been completed.

Travelling from B-4 West End (Editorial note: home address in Delhi) to the office proved challenging due to the rain. In several places, the road was flooded with up to two feet of water, causing many cars to get stuck. Fortunately, I made it to the office slowly and without any major inconvenience. My workday proceeded as usual. When I returned home at 5h15 PM, I slept for a short while, then took a shower and went to a friend’s house for dinner. There were six people at the gathering: Ross, Nick, a new girl from the High Commission, a new man from the High Commission, a Dutch lady whom you met at François’ place, Fria, and me. (Editorial note: CHC colleagues) I returned home at 11h30 PM.

This morning, Vijayan prepared my breakfast at 7h30 AM, and now I am at the office. At noon, I have been invited for lunch by a colleague from the V.K. office. After work tonight, I will most likely go for a swim before heading home. Please note that Vijayan is on leave today.

How are father and mother, Lourdhu and Rajah, Mary, Marreddy, and the others? Please extend my best regards to everyone. Has Mr. Davidson (Editorial note: Director of Myrada, an Indian NGO) from Bangalore visited Reddipalem? What were the results of his visit?

Please inform Sister Virginia that she will probably receive only 12,000 rupees, which should be sufficient to finish the roofing. If you have some time, I encourage you to visit the dispensary—the new construction—and share your impressions with me. In your opinion, will the Canadian funds be well utilized if we provide them? Your feedback will help accelerate the issuance of the money. I will try to bring the cheque with me (please do not mention this to the sisters) when I come to Reddipalem.

Tell Eric that Papa is asking him to take good care of Maman, Sunita, and Marc. How is Sunita eating—does the curry make a difference? I hope Marc is not feeling ill. Please remember to boil the water.

Sending thousands of kisses and hugs to you and the children. Infinite love, André

August 7, 1975 (2)

My Dearest,

I hope this letter finds you well.

How are you, and how are the children? Please give my love to father, mother, and the entire family. I am wondering if it has been raining heavily in Andhra Pradesh.

Angel's Mother and Father

Here in Delhi, since you departed, I have not seen even a glimpse of sunshine. It has been raining continuously—rain upon rain. As the French poet Verlaine wrote, “Il pleut dans mon cœur comme il pleut sur la ville...” (“It rains in my heart as it rains on the city.”)

Yesterday was rather uneventful. I returned to work at the office after our long holidays, and I find it difficult to get back into the routine. I really must motivate myself to accomplish tasks, but today, I am determined to do better.

For lunch, I visited a colleague from UK. and returned to work around 3h30 PM. In the evening, I was invited to dinner at André Charbonneau’s home (Editorial note: CHC colleague). André is having some furniture made and took the opportunity to show me a beautiful wall unit of shelves, made of teak wood by a local carpenter in New Delhi. The shelves are designed to hold the sound system, TV, books, cupboards, and even a secretary desk, and all for less than $600—half the price one would pay in Canada. This piece of furniture would be perfect in our new house, especially in the room adjacent to the living room, which is currently the dining room but could be transformed into a music, TV, and library room.

The only challenge is the delivery time: it takes about two months from the order date. If we want this wall unit, we need to place the order soon. This Saturday, André Charbonneau and I will visit the manufacturer to examine the furniture in more detail. Of course, I will not make any decisions before hearing from you and certainly will not order the shelves without your agreement. Please let me know your thoughts as soon as possible. Can we afford this purchase now, especially if we also consider buying an Indian-style living room set?

If you agree to the shelves, I would like to place the order by the end of next week at the latest. On Saturday, I also plan to visit the showroom for the living room furniture we saw advertised. I’ll be sure to update you on that as well.

Yesterday, Hary Dilawri (Editorial note: A Canadian, car dealer in Hull) called and mentioned that he will come to the office today. He invited me to Punjab for the weekend, but I think I will decline. There are too many matters to attend to here—various claims, and Sunita’s adoption process, for instance.

My Angel, please take good care of yourself, and do not stay up too late at night. How are the children? Please tell them that I send them my love and kisses—a big kiss for each of them, and for you, infinite kisses.

With all my love, André

August 9, 1975 (3)

My dearest,

How are you? And how are the children? Please be sure to take good care of yourself and the little ones during my absence.

Life here continues at a slow and rather lonely pace. Yesterday, I received your final letter sent from Hyderabad, and it brought me comfort to know that everything went according to plan. I want to reassure you not to worry about Joji (Editorial note: servant from Reddipalem) becoming too attached to you, as it remains uncertain whether we will ultimately bring him with us. We will make that decision in due course.

Vijayan has been doing an excellent job keeping the house clean, and it seems he is more capable in the kitchen than we previously thought. Given his skills, perhaps it is best to keep him with us until our departure. However, when it comes time to pack and prepare for our move, having an extra pair of hands—such as Joji’s—might be very helpful. We can make that decision when the time arrives.

On the financial side, I received the payment from Air France, totalling RS.46,000. With this amount, plus an additional $150, I was able to pay our share of the rent for July and August immediately. As a result, I am now quite short on funds. However, I expect to receive more money at the beginning of next week, as I have submitted all our claims for travel to Canada, TD, and the interview in Ottawa, totalling $425. We should be reimbursed for these expenses, but since the money was spent in Canada, it is possible that Ottawa will deposit the reimbursement directly into our bank account, so we might not see those funds here in Delhi.

I have also completed the paperwork for our hospitality allowance for April, May, and June, and have requested an advance of Rs. 6,000. I hope to receive this advance by next Tuesday so that I can deposit it into our Delhi account.

The weather yesterday and this morning has been pleasant, though very hot. This Saturday morning, I plan to go to Connaught Place with André Charbonneau to visit the furniture manufacturer. Have you sent me your thoughts on this matter yet? If not, please do so as soon as possible. Today, I also intend to write home and keep myself occupied with various tasks.

How is everyone in Reddipalem? Please give my regards to father, mother, and all the family. Has father found out whether the arrangements can be finalized regarding my travel claim with the government? We will see how that develops.

I miss you and the children very much. Please tell Eric that his papa asks him to take good care of maman, Sunita, and Marc. How is Sunita adjusting to her old environment? Is she eating well? And what about Marc—does he still have his cold? Is he teething? Please say goodbye to Celina for me.

Sending you all my tender kisses and infinite love. André

André, Éric, Sunita and Marc in Gatineau

August 10, 1975 (4)

My dearest,

I hope you are well, and that the children are doing fine. Are they sleeping better at night? Perhaps you might consider shortening their afternoon rest if you wish to resolve their difficulties with sleeping through the night.

It was a wise decision to remain in Vangapadu (Editorial note: Village of Mary and Marreddy) until next Tuesday. In doing so, you and the children will avoid the exhaustion that comes with travel. The only inconvenience is that, since you left, I have sent all my letters to Reddipalem. This means you will have to wait until Tuesday to read my messages.

Today is Sunday—a very lonely day without you and the children. After I woke up this morning and had my usual breakfast (as Vijayan is on holiday), I gave instructions to the Mali, who arrived with another worker to finish his tasks. He had not appeared all week, but tonight the work is nearly complete, and he is expected to return tomorrow to finish everything.

Following this, I attended Mass and then went to the office to write a letter home, mainly to express my thanks to everyone. Around one o'clock I returned home, ate a little, read, and took a nap. At three o'clock, I repaired the small ceramic elephant that was broken during the move, as well as a lamp that was upstairs near the door leading to the roof. Last week, I had asked Vijayan to clean the staircase to the roof, which he did very well.

I have also been working on plans for furnishing our new house in Limbour. Yesterday, as I mentioned before, I visited ALANKRIT, the manufacturer we received an advertisement from. Their pieces are beautiful but quite expensive. I am particularly tempted by a living room set made of teak—the sofa is priced at Rs. 2,700 and each chair at Rs. 1,250. I also think we should purchase a small folding bar for about Rs. 2,000. Perhaps we could ask them to add an Indian touch to our two dining room speakers, which would cost Rs. 2,000 or Rs. 3,000 each. Additionally, four small brass stools to match our table, and two brass lamps (which we could buy on Janpath street or elsewhere), would make for a lovely Indian-style living room. Please note, the prices for the sofa and chairs do not include fabric; we would need nine metres at around Rs. 50 per metre.

ALANKRIT furniture

For the wall shelves in our music/library room—if you agree—we should order as soon as possible, as it typically takes two months between placing the order and receiving delivery. Should I wait for your return to Delhi, or should I go ahead and order now? I have already made plans and measurements for the music/library room. The wall shelves for our sound system could look like the design I have drawn by hand. The room itself is small (11x13 feet), so all we could accommodate would be: 1) the wall shelves, 2) the small Tibetan carpet, 3) the Lazy Boy chair, 4) the Hide-a-Bed (Monique), and a small wooden chair for the secretary. From above, the layout would be like what we had at 20 Des Érables (Editorial note: Home in Gatineau, Canada).

For the kitchen, I am considering having the stools made here if it is more economical. We can wait for your return before making a final decision. As for the family room, you are right— the TV should be placed there. Eventually, we will buy comfortable chairs (one for you, one for me), and with the TV, these three chairs, and a couple of straw stools like the one we already have, the space should be well appointed. In the meantime, we can make do with our dining set. Our bedroom poses no issues, but the children’s rooms present a space problem. We will need to discuss and find a solution together.

My dearest, you can see that I am trying to keep myself busy during your absence. If you have time, please write and let me know your thoughts on all these matters. Tell Eric that he should begin learning to read and write soon—he could read this letter and write to me. Please tell him I ask him to continue being a good boy and to take care of Maman, Sunita, and Marc. I am very glad to hear that Sunita is eating well—bravo, Sunita!

I noticed you may have forgotten to take the mosquito spray. Please ensure the children, especially Marc, do not get bitten. It would be terrible if, just a short time before returning to Canada, one of us were to contract malaria.

My love, I am already making plans to join you as soon as I know a little more. I will write again about this soon. Please give my best regards to father, mother, and everyone.

Your husband sends you infinite, tender kisses, and kisses to the children as well. André

August 13, 1975 (5)

My Dearest,

I hope this letter finds you well. How are you, my love? I trust the children are in good health and spirits. I miss you terribly, and I find myself longing for the children as well. Life is not the same without you all, and my thoughts are constantly with you. I hope you are enjoying your time and making the most of your stay. Please give my warmest regards to father, mother, and to our brothers, sister, and everyone else in the family.

Now that you are in Reddipalem, you must have received my previous letters. Please write back soon—I am eager to hear from you. Life here continues at a slow and steady pace, nothing particularly eventful happening. After our long holidays in Canada, I am only just beginning to regain my focus and motivation at work. It is much more difficult now, knowing that we will be returning to Canada soon.

Yesterday, I wrote to CIDA in Ottawa regarding the Reddipalem water supply scheme. I informed them about the project and asked for patience from the people involved, assuring them that I am working diligently on their behalf. However, it is important for everyone to understand that we must exercise caution to ensure that the 2.5 lakh rupees are properly utilized. The project is currently being studied very carefully in Ottawa. I explained that there is always the possibility that the project could be rejected. Personally, I sincerely hope that the people in Ottawa will not apply a “benefit analysis” to the project, as I have mentioned to you before. If they do, it may reveal that the ratio between the cost and the number of beneficiaries is quite high, with each person in the village amounting to a cost of 500 rupees. Let us hope, pray, and wait for CIDA’s response.

Water tank - Reddipalem

Last night, I attended a reception hosted by the commissioner for Mr. & Mrs. Church, who are replacing J.  Farrow. The day before, David Veitch kindly invited me to his place for lunch. Tomorrow night, there will be another reception at the High Commission, this time in honour of M. and Mme Lapointe, who are replacing the Jenkins. After the reception, François Laberge has invited me for dinner. On the 19th, I am also invited by the Laberges.

Life here continues with one event after another, but I must admit, this weekend will be a long and lonely one for me. Friday is also a holiday, which only adds to the sense of solitude—it seems to be my fate.

A Note to the Children:

Eric, Sunita, Marc,

Are you all still being good? Take good care of Maman.

I send you all my biggest hugs and kisses.

X X X

Papa – André

My love, please take good care of yourself and of the children. I love you deeply and send you endless, tender kisses. Yours always, André

August 16, 1975 (6)

My Love, my only one,

I hope this letter finds you well. How are you doing? And how are the children—especially Eric, is his cold improving? Is Marc alright, and what about Sunita? I wonder if you have received my previous letters, and whether you have had a chance to reply.

Today, I am planning to visit the furniture manufacturer to discuss the wall shelves. I have prepared a detailed plan for what is needed and will ask him for his price. If his prices are significantly lower than those in Canada, I will likely place the order. However, if they are not, I will wait for your letter before deciding. The days seem to pass slowly and, with each one, I feel increasingly lonely. This loneliness makes me look forward even more to joining you, my other half.

Here is what I am thinking: on Friday night, August 22, or Saturday morning, August 23, I will fly to Hyderabad. I will stay in a hotel on Friday night, and on Saturday morning, I will work with Ed Spratt, our Canadian colleague, on the dryland project in Hyderabad. On Saturday afternoon, August 23, I plan to take the Golkonda Express. I will ask Marreddy to meet me at Khazipet station and pick me up on his motorcycle. Then, on Sunday morning, I would like Marreddy to bring me to Reddipalem.

What do you think about this plan? I will write to Marreddy, but it would also help if you could ask him to come and get me at Khazipet station on the afternoon of August 23. Please let me know the exact time the Golkonda arrives at Khazipet, as it is important for me to decide whether I should arrive in Hyderabad on Friday night or Saturday morning.

Additionally, please let me know if father is willing to travel with us by plane. If he is, I will need to confirm the ticket during my short stay in Hyderabad on Saturday morning. Therefore, it is important for me to know his decision. Please convey to Father that I hope he will join us on this journey.

This afternoon, I am expecting a visitor at home—Gaston Roberge, a Jesuit friend of mine who is passing through to Delhi. We studied together in Canada. Apart from this visit, things will feel rather dull without you and the children.

My love, please take good care of yourself. Is Eric being well-behaved for you, Sunita, and Marc? Kindly let him know that I am asking him to do so. Also, if you need anything when I come to Reddipalem, please let me know. My warmest regards to Father, Mother, and everyone else.

I love you more than ever and send you kisses and hugs filled with tenderness. Big kisses to the children as well. Your Husband, André

August 17, 1975 (7)

My Dearest,

On this Sunday afternoon, I find myself thinking of you and our children. How are you all doing? I sincerely hope you are enjoying your stay, and I urge you not to tire yourself out. It makes me glad to hear that you are keeping your promise to go to bed early, though perhaps you could try to rest even earlier, given your need to rise at dawn.

Please remind Eric that I am asking him to be obedient and kind. If he wishes to be considered a big boy, this is how he should behave. Tell Sunita that I encourage her to smile often. How is Marc’s cold – has it passed? Is he eating well these days?

Kindly convey my regards to father and mother. Are they planning to return with us? Is father considering travelling by plane? How are Lourdhu and Rajah? I am curious—has it become fashionable in Reddipalem to grow a beard? Will I need to adopt this style when I visit?

I was surprised and saddened to learn of Fr. Farina’s passing, such a lonely death. Has anyone been appointed to take his place? Have you managed to visit the convent lately? Please do not forget to inform Sister Regina that if she receives funding from CIDA, it will be no more than Rs. 12,000, and it is strictly allocated for completing the roofing of the dispensary—no other purpose. Do you believe they will use the funds properly? I admit, I remain somewhat distrustful in this regard.

Have the people from Reddipalem come to discuss the water system with you? Please encourage them to be patient and to pray that CIDA will approve the project.

As I mentioned in my previous letter, I visited the furniture maker yesterday. He provided an estimate of Rs. 4,000 for the wall shelves, which seems reasonable compared to the Scandinavian catalogue price of $1,420.50. I have not placed the order yet. After some calculations at home, I decided to propose a price reduction to Rs. 3,900.25. On Monday, I intend to return and make this new offer, as it represents exactly one-third of the U.S. price, which appears to be the furniture maker’s general pricing principle.

I also inquired about the cost of an armchair to match the wall shelves’ secretary, and he quoted Rs. 275—a very good price when compared to the $125 cost for a similar chair in Canada. Lastly, I showed him a photo of a kitchen stool. He could make it for Rs. 180, but I think this is slightly high; ideally, we should pay no more than Rs. 150, which would be one-third of the U.S. price. Nevertheless, the prices overall are very reasonable. I am considering ordering three stools, but I am unsure whether we truly need two or three. What do you think? In Canada, such stools cost US$63 each.

Yesterday, as I wrote, I received a visit from Gaston Roberge, a Jesuit friend from Canada. He arrived at 4h00 PM. and stayed until 10h00 PM, sharing supper with me. It was the first occasion when Vijayan prepared the main meal, and he did an excellent job—perhaps even better than Thomas. Today is his day off.

My thoughts are constantly with you. Please take excellent care of yourself and the children. One last thing: should I take the Golkonda from Hyderabad or Secunderabad? Please let me know.

I love you. Kisses to you and the children. Yours, André

In autumn 1975, the family—now with three children—moved back to Canada, where André was promoted to deputy director of the partnership branch at CIDA.